Your Scars Matter!!

Your scars matter! Are we missing the point when Thomas responds wanting to see Jesus’ scars to believe He was resurrected? Could it be that the issue is not doubting faith, but that scarsharing brings resurrection and hope, forgiveness and healing? Not only is Thomas unafraid to ask Jesus about his scars, but Jesus is also unafraid to show them to Thomas.Both are heroic actions.

 Church let’s be friends that are willing to listen to the scarsharing stories of others, share our own, and not see it as a weakness. It’s an opportunity for hearts to connect and find healing for our injured souls. 

 But Thomas said to them, ‘Unless I see the mark of the nails in His hands… I will not believe.’ — John 20:25Devotionals Daily

Thomas: Surviving Our Scars
by Jacqueline A. Bussie, Outlaw Christian

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On the cross, God places God’s story of woundedness next to yours
But Thomas said to them, ‘Unless I see the mark of the nails in His hands… I will not believe.’ — John 20:25
As Christians, we are all familiar with the story of Thomas, which we usually understand to convey the lesson that doubt is the opposite of faith and is therefore sinful and wrong. Can doubt be seen not simply as faith’s wimpy opposite, but instead as a sign of a faith that is alive, vibrant, and in authentic relationship with God? For today’s devotional, let’s take a closer look at the scriptural story of Thomas to see if that is really what the scripture teaches, or if there is more to the story.
The disciple named Thomas speaks only twice in the Gospels. A lot of Christians give Thomas — whom many call “doubting Thomas” — a bad rap, not so much because of what the Gospels say about him, but because of the faith-law that gives doubt a bad rap. In the gospel of John, when Jesus appears to the disciples after His resurrection, no one recognizes Jesus right away. Mary Magdalene, the first to glimpse Jesus at the tomb, mistakes Jesus for the gardener. When Jesus appears later to the male disciples, they don’t recognize Him either until Jesus “showed them His hands and His side” (John 20:20). But Thomas wasn’t there for this; so when the disciples tell Him about these incredible visits from Jesus, he says he won’t believe that they “have seen the Lord” until he sees “the mark of the nails in His hands,” puts his “finger in the mark of the nails,” and puts his “hand in His side” (John 20:25). When Jesus shows up again, He addresses Thomas first thing by saying,
Put your finger here and see My hands. Reach out your hand and put it in My side. — John 20:27
Thomas does this and then cries out,
My Lord and my God! — John 20:28
What outlaw Christians notice in this story is not the one and only line we are taught to notice — Jesus’ command, “Do not doubt but believe” (v. 27). First, we notice that everyone else in the story fails to recognize Jesus also, but for some strange reason, only poor Thomas gets labeled “doubter.” This suggests the “doubting Thomas” interpretation is an unfair reading that probably misses the point. Second, while everyone else in the story seems to have forgotten Jesus’ suffering (and crucifixion) in light of His glorious resurrection, there is only one person who remembers it — and asks about it.
Thomas, in other words, is the only person who remembers Jesus’ whole story — all the hurt, and the hope too.
Thomas believes redemption is more than just an erasure of pain.
For him, redemption involves the way people live on in spite of the fact that they still carry scars on their skin. Thomas expects scars. If the guy in front of Him doesn’t have scars, Thomas will know He can’t be the Jesus he knew — because the real Jesus suffered something awful. Thomas is the only one in the room brave enough to remember that a friend’s painful wounds still remain without having to be shown them first. He remembers that the suffering of Jesus is real, just like our own suffering.
This radical new reading of Thomas helps us make sense of why in the only other Bible story (John 11) in which Thomas speaks, he is beyond a shadow of a doubt — pun intended! — portrayed not as a faithless loser but as the bravest, most loving, authentic friend Jesus has. When Lazarus dies and Mary and Martha beg Jesus to come back to them in Judea, the disciples try to talk Jesus out of it by saying,
The Jews were just now trying to stone you, and are you going there again? — John 11:8
But Thomas — and only Thomas — pipes up and says,
Let us also go, that we may die with Him. — John 11:16
All the other disciples fear for Jesus’ life and their own, but Thomas is willing to die alongside Jesus.
It’s so sad that we label Thomas “doubting Thomas,” but ignore the fact that he is also “willing-to-die-with-Jesus Thomas.” What is the ironic point of the story? Could it be that scar-sharing is the solid foundation for any authentic friendship? That no one really knows who we are until we are brave enough to show our scars to them? That the people who have put their fingers and eyes on our scars and still stick with us anyway are the people who understand best how to love us? Thomas’s story teaches us all of these lessons and more. Those people in your life who accept and name suffering for the wounding thing it actually is are the only friends who can ever override the fear of walking with you down all life’s paths of pain. Only people who believe your wounds are real in the first place can ever imagine placing their wounds next to yours. On the cross, God places God’s story of woundedness next to yours.
Have you ever considered the telling fact that the Latin word stigmata that Christians have used for centuries to describe Jesus’ scars is just the plural of the English word stigma, meaning a mark of shame, disgrace, or humiliation? Here, our very language exposes the teaching that all scars — even Jesus’ — are stigmas. How many of us have been wounded by this terrible lie and faith-law! Jesus, however, refuses to see His scars as a source of humiliation or shame, or even as a thing to keep hidden. Instead, Jesus readily and boldly shows His scars to His friends. As I see it, Jesus flat-out rejects the idea that we should be ashamed and secretive about the unjust and terrible things other people have done to us. 
Not only is Thomas unafraid to ask Jesus about His scars, but Jesus is also unafraid to show them to him. Both are heroic actions.
Why then are we so terrified of showing our scars or asking anyone about theirs? Are we missing the point of the story, which might just be that scar-sharing brings resurrection? Thomas is like that character in the novel Little Bee who says in one of my favorite quotes: “A scar is never ugly. That is what the scar makers want us to think. But you and I, we must make an agreement to defy them. We must see all scars as beauty…. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means, I survived.”
While many Christians remember Thomas as the loser who doubted Jesus’ post-resurrection appearance, outlaw Christians remember Thomas instead as the bold friend who, because he refused to believe scars were stigmas, cared enough to ask Jesus about His scars that He survived. Inspired by Thomas, let’s go and do likewise with our friends.
Adapted by Jacqueline Bussie for Devotionals Daily from Outlaw Christian, copyright Jacqueline Bussie.
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Are you hiding your scars? Do you feel ashamed of them? Today, let’s take one brave step into authentic Christlikeness and say what is true, show what is true, and live what is true just as He did! Come join the conversation on our blog. We would love to hear from you! ~ Devotionals Daily 

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Need a breakthrough?Hold on….you will dance again!!

You did it, [God]: You changed wild lament into whirling dance. – Psalm 30:11
— Dr. Leslie Parrott, Soul Friends 

 Love from the center of who you are; Be good friends who love deeply. — Romans 12:9-10

Suffering and Joy: The Whirling Dance

Dr. Leslie Parrott, Soul Friends: What Every Woman Needs to Grow in Her Faith

Hi, I’m Leslie.

Love from the center of who you are; don’t fake it… Be good friends who love deeply. — Romans 12:9-10

Clare was the first new friend I made when I joined our church. She’s a love-from-the-center kind of friend. Bright, beautiful, and open, Clare is easy to connect with. When I discovered we had a mutual friend in a woman named Sandy, Clare was instantly vetted for me.
Clare and Dave, her husband, have a son, Josh, age fourteen, and a daughter, Sara Grace. Cerebral palsy stole Sara’s language skills and confines her to a wheelchair. She’s eleven now, but her developmental age is closer to three. With no mobility, she requires round-the-clock care that demands continual attention and patience. The things most of us take for granted — sharing a meal, brushing our teeth, taking a bath — are incredibly taxing. A common cold for Sara can’t be taken lightly and always requires a trip to the doctor. Even getting Sara into her special van, with all of its lifts and gadgets, is exhausting.
One Sunday at church, during communion, I noticed Clare slipped out early. Later, when I found her in the church foyer, she told me: “I couldn’t do it today. I’m mad at God and I don’t want to share a meal with him.” Clare’s confession followed a dedication ceremony for a new baby. The bright-and-shiny family on the platform included a new son and a beautiful older sister who twirled around the stage in her fancy church dress.
Clare, of course, was happy for that sweet family. But as she watched the beautiful little girl twirl, the joyful movement triggered a creeping sadness within her. She ached for Sara. The string of traumatizing surgeries and the failed brain shunts are only the beginning. Clare wonders most about the thoughts and feelings trapped inside of Sara that can’t find their way past her damaged brain to be expressed. She can’t keep from thinking how her child’s world is so unknown to her and all the people who love her. She can’t keep from thinking how sad even celebrating Sara’s birthday can be, because Sara can’t have little girls over to giggle and play a party game together.
She can’t help but think how life would be if Sara could twirl and dance.
Let me be clear: Clare’s faith is personal, alive, and deeply rooted. But she’s no poser. She’s not about to fake it. That’s why her surprising decision not to partake in communion was a witness to me. Her faith-life is current, in the moment, honest. She’s not one to simply go through the motions. That Sunday, she and God had to come to terms. Clare wasn’t just content to pray about her sadness; she needed to pray through her grief until she had a new sense of God’s involvement in her daughter’s life.
But the breakthrough didn’t come. At least not quickly.
Over the next few months Clare continued to pray. She poured her aching heart out to God, sometimes only with questions and tears.
One day Clare called. “Leslie, today I don’t want to walk Green Lake, or have coffee at Pete’s. Today I want to go to Discovery Beach together. I’ve got something to tell you.” Clare knows this beach is one of my favorite places in the world, a place so reverent it serves as a shortcut to worship, surrounded as it is with the stunning beauty of the Pacific Ocean, Mount Rainier standing guard on the horizon, and the forest meeting up with the sand. As we sat in the winter sunshine, feeling the crisp breeze swirl around us, Clare said her grief was dissipating. God was transforming her heart. In fact, Clare confessed, “Life is still heavy and hard, but I’m finding joy again — for the first time in a long time.” She told me that she was finding surprising meaning in even the toughest times with Sara.
Clare also told me that God had given her a verse:
You did it, [God]: You changed wild lament into whirling dance. – Psalm 30:11
She told me she was ready to come back to the table with God and share a meal. They’d come to terms. She might not see Sara dance or twirl, but God would change her grief into joy anyway.
Then Clare shared about a rare and deep conversation she had just had with our mutual friend, Sandy. Sandy, a nurse, had been by Clare’s side during that first dark year of hospitalization and crisis for Sara. As they talked, Sandy remembered something from those early bleak days in the hospital. God had given Clare a startling vision: a vivid picture of a little girl twirling in a pretty dress. Clare had forgotten it, along with the concrete details of where they were when it happened ten years earlier. They had thought it was a promise for Sara, that God was saying someday, maybe in heaven, Sara would dance.
Sandy said to Clare, “I think God just spoke to me. He told me that little girl twirling in the pretty dress in that vision was you. You are the whirling dancer filled with God’s joy.”
As Clare shared this astounding story with me, I reminded her of the Sunday when she couldn’t take communion because she was so filled with grief. “Remember what triggered it all for you that day?” I asked. “It was the little twirling girl beside her family on the platform.”
In that moment, sitting on a piece of driftwood at Discovery Beach, both of us marveled at our own discovery. God had actually been sending Clare an invitation. He was inviting her to let go of her heartache, to release the deep grief, the wild lament she had borne bravely for a decade. It was time to receive the gift of God’s joy in whirling dance.
Your Turn
1. How has a time of suffering led you into a deeper communion with God? Are you experiencing a similar communion currently with God? Why or why not?
2. How are your honest doubts and disappointments leading you to a new place of trust and joy?
Excerpted with permission from Soul Friends: What Every Woman Needs to Grow in Her Faith by Dr. Leslie Parrott, copyright Zondervan, 2015.

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